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After the Shock

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The day goes by like a shadow o'er the heart,
With sorrow, where all was delight.
Stephen Foster



Many people believe that the initial shock and numbness following the death of a loved one constitutes the entire grief process, but this is only the start. As the reality of the death sinks in, shock and disbelief give way to growing awareness. With awareness, the real pain of grieving begins.

As we allow ourselves the time and space to grieve, we gain perspective on the loss. Suppression of emotions may prolong grief in some, but not everyone heals through open expression of feelings. We each must find our own way to grieve. With time, we adapt to life without our loved one.

Immediately after the death of a loved one, however, it seems like nothing will make us feel better. Acute grief feels like it will last forever and will erode us with pain in the process. They say that time heals, but in the midst of grief, we wonder how it will ever become less intense.

This is why it is important to consider support from others we trust. People who care about us want to help us feel better, but they may be unsure of how to act or what to say. Attempts to help may or may not work. Click
All the Wrong Places for the risks of sharing the pain of grief with strangers.

For a look at the well-meaning, but unhelpful, comments people make to the newly bereaved, visit
Good Intentions, Unhelpful Remarks.

Emotional, spiritual and physical support can come from anywhere, but sometimes in the midst of our grief, it may be difficult to ask for the support we need, or we may be unable to accept help when it is offered. Isolation from friends and family can intensify the pain. Refer to
An Act of Courage for information on grief support programs.

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Why can’t I find a page or link that used to be here?

Over the last eight years, The Grieving Heart® meandered into many topics and lost its purpose. I have deleted 38 pages to bring it back to the original focus of grief and helping grievers. I will continue to support, honor and remember veterans because it is the least I can do for those who have given so much.

Web addresses come and go and I cannot guarantee the accuracy, safety or longevity of third-party (external) sites. Finding and fixing broken links is a massive time consumer, so I have deleted many outside sources. The ones that remain will be checked on a regular basis. I will no longer add links unless they are related to grief, helping grievers, pet loss, or support for our active duty service members and veterans.

I hope that my renewed attention to grief information will make The Grieving Heart® a better experience and comfort for you. Thank you for visiting. CJ

 


 

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How complicated and individual mending is, the time required for healing
cannot be measured against any fixed calendar
. Mary Jane Moffat
 
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