My Personal Journey
What wound did ever heal but by degrees?
is a piece of Eastern wisdom that tells me we teach best what we need to know. Creating the Grieving Heart® web
site forced me to examine my own grief. I hesitated to include my story because it is, after all, just one woman’s
journey. Grief is both universal and unique: We all grieve but we differ in the ways we grieve. How can my experiences possibly
matter to you?
Some of my writing reflects the pain of new grief written
almost a decade ago. Other passages express healing over time. Such is the nature of loss. I finally decided to add this
section with the sincere intention that it helps you sort through your own loss and grief and, in some way, assists you in
I have read about the gifts of grief and, at first,
the idea repulsed me. Mom’s death was not a gift. It helps me to remember that I grieve because I loved her. If I hadn’t
loved her, I wouldn’t hurt. It is through this pain that change occurs and, if I am honest, grief changed me in some
I appreciate little things more and take fewer things for granted. I have greater patience with
other people and myself. I say thank you more often. I am most grateful for the notes that I receive from grievers. Knowing
that my writing comforts others is a genuine gift that hides in the dark.
And yet, I would trade every new life
direction, every note of thanks and every change of attitude if I could have my parents back. I didn’t go searching
for these gifts of grief. They found me through my loss.
Because grief and healing are ever changing, this site
will always be a work in progress. Thank you for spending a few moments at The Grieving Heart®.
I hope you found something here to comfort you. Please visit again.