Reflections on Healing

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Suffering passes while love remains. ~Anonymous

There is a space in my heart that is always yours. ~Martha Whitmore Hickman

Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them. ~Leo Tolstoy

The world breaks every one and afterward many are strong at the broken places. Ernest Hemingway, Farewell to Arms 

An additional strain connected with Fritz’ long illness…was my inability for two or three years to recall him as he was before he got ill. I remember lying awake at night struggling in vain to recapture his image…how much I suffered through this blockage I only realized fully through the ecstasy of joy and relief when I could recall again the younger, healthy Fritz. ~Lily Pincus

Unless we remember we cannot understand. ~Edward M. Forster

Secrets are things we give to others to keep for us. ~
Elbert Hubbard

Man is born broken. He lives by mending. The grace of God is glue. ~
Eugene O’Neill

One does not discover new lands without losing sight of the shore for a very long time. ~
Andre Gide

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters, compared to what lies within us.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Vain is the word of a philosopher which does not heal any suffering of man.
~Epicurus, Greek philosopher

I do not believe that suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all the world would be wise since everyone suffers. To suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable. ~
Anne Morrow Lindbergh

And suddenly at the very moment when, so far, I mourned H. least, I remembered her best. Indeed it was something (almost) better than the memory; an instantaneous, unanswerable impression. To say it was like a meeting would be going too far. Yet there was that in it which tempts one to use those words. It was as if the lifting of the sorrow removed a barrier.
~C. S. Lewis, A Grief Observed

God can heal a broken heart, but He has to have all the pieces. ~Author Unknown

Sadness flies on the wings of the morning and out of the heart of darkness comes the light. 
~Jean Giraudoux

When love is lost, do not bow your head in sadness; instead keep your head up high and gaze into heaven for that is where your broken heart has been sent to heal. ~Author Unknown

Gratitude is the memory of the heart. ~Jean Baptiste Massieu

Praise the bridge that carried you over. ~George Colman

Throughout history, "tender loving care" has uniformly been recognized as a valuable element in healing. ~Larry Dossey

There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face. ~Ben Williams

There are two means of refuge from the miseries of life: music and cats. ~Albert Schweitzer

Mental health problems do not affect three or four out of every five persons but one out of one.  ~William Menninger

Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live. ~Jim Rohn

Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity. ~Henry Van Dyke

For me, singing sad songs often has a way of healing a situation. It gets the hurt out in the open into the light, out of the darkness.~Reba McEntire

I love sharing my story. It's endlessly healing.~Ben Vereen

I think music in itself is healing. It's an explosive expression of humanity. It's something we are all touched by. No matter what culture we're from, everyone loves music. ~Billy Joel

I'm touched by the idea that when we do things that are useful and helpful - collecting these shards of spirituality - that we may be helping to bring about a healing. ~Leonard Nimoy

It is reasonable to expect the doctor to recognize that science may not have all the answers to problems of health and healing. ~Norman Cousins

Of one thing I am certain, the body is not the measure of healing, peace is the measure.
~Phyllis McGinley

True love stories never have endings. ~Richard Bach

The risk of love is loss, and the price of loss is grief. But the pain of grief is only a shadow when compared with the pain of never risking love. ~Hilary Stanton Zunin
They whom we love and lose are no longer where they were before. They are now...wherever we are.
~St. John Chrysostom

And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.
~Book of Revelation 21:4, King James Version


The Difference Between Curing and Healing

By CJ 

In modern medicine, healing is related to restoration, or a return to function. If we have a broken leg, for example, the bones will heal and we will walk again. While the functional return to health, or curing, can be part of the healing process, there is more. In the broadest sense of the word, healing may not cure catastrophic diseases such as AIDS or cancer. But healing does restore an inner order to persons with serious illness. This restoration of balance fosters emotional strength, peace of mind, acceptance and an inner knowing of spiritual wholeness.

If we consider healing to be an integration of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual energies, then healing can take place whether or not there is a return to function. A person with cancer may have a satisfying life and experience a pain-free and peaceful death. These experiences of integration and wholeness represent healing, even though the cancer is still present. Yes, spontaneous remission of symptoms (curing) can and does occur, but healing is not the absence of disease...it is the presence of insight.


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How complicated and individual mending is, the time required for healing
cannot be measured against any fixed calendar
. Mary Jane Moffat
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