cheer, laughter and happiness are emotions often associated with holidays and special occasions. Yet those experiencing grief
feel a vastly different set of emotions.
In this caring and compassionate guide, Brook Noel explores
the different challenges brought on by holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and other special occasions. She’ll share
with you what to expect along with strategies for coping during these difficult days. You’ll also find some ideas for
creating new rituals and incorporating your lost loved one into future celebrations.
2. Smith, Harold Ivan. A Decembered Grief: Living with Loss While Others Are Celebrating. Boston: Beacon Hill Press, 1999.
From the back cover: "Surviving the loss of a loved one at any time of
the year is difficult. And when the grief becomes more intense during the holidays, weeks usually spent celebrating are now
marred by awkwardness, unpredictable emotions and conflicting obligations.
With keen perception, A Decembered
Grief provides illustrations and insights for those facing grief during the holidays--while emphasizing God's ability
to...transform the season into a time of grace and healing."
Focuses on Christianity and the Christmas season,
but carries helpful suggestions that can be applied to any holiday. The format is right for grievers: small sections that
can be read at any time and in any order.
Examples of the wisdom you'll find here include: setting boundaries;
recognizing the uniqueness of your grief; crying if you want to; altering, rather than abandoning, your traditions; unplugging
the Christmas mania; honoring the one who died; and how to weigh the criticism you may get from friends and family.
Gentle, practical, compassionate and honest. The author has a clear and beautiful writing style. Consistently gets five-star
reviews at online bookstores.
3. Wolfelt, Alan. Healing Your Holiday Grief: 100 Practical Ideas for Blending Mourning and Celebration During the Holiday
Season. Fort Collins, CO: Companion Press, 2005.
From the publisher: "With compassionate insight, this handbook
helps those in mourning through what can be the hardest time of year—the holiday season. Mourners will better understand
their complex emotions after reading about such topics as honoring thoughts and feelings, creating new traditions, finding
ways to de-stress, and incorporating healing rituals into the holiday season.
This book's practical wisdom also
covers issues such as decision-making during the holidays and coping with the blending of mourning and celebration. All of
the answers and advice in this guide are provided in the popular 100 ideas format that features one idea per page, allowing
readers to fully absorb each suggestion."