Spring Reflection

When does the grieving end?

The sun was warm but the wind was chill,
You know how it is with an April day
When the sun is out and the wind is chill,
You're one month on in the middle of May.
But if you so much as dare to speak,
A cloud comes over the sunlit arch,
A wind comes off a frozen peak,
And you're two months back in the middle of March.
~Robert Frost

The ups and downs of "inner weather" are part of my healing.
Martha Whitmore Hickman


For more thoughts on the changing seasons,
please visit
The First Time Around.


The following ideas honor the dead any time of the year and you can do the activities below with children:

One of the best ways to teach children that we respect the dead is to visit a well-kept cemetery. This can be a pleasant and meaningful family outing, especially during the fall and winter seasons, because all of nature is in repose as it awaits the renewal of spring.

Think about the relationship between the changing seasons and the cycles of our own lives: We are born, we bloom, we mature and we die to be born again into Spirit. Life renews itself. The symbolism of spring, summer, autumn and winter, as it relates to the circle of life, can be helpful to children because it is gentle and valid. (If you prefer to omit Spirit, try this: All of nature is born and all of nature dies. The imagery still works.)

If you live in the Cincinnati-TriState area, take a stroll through Spring Grove Cemetery and Arboretum, a tranquil place that honors life in a beautiful setting.  

Visit the graves of your own family members. Place seasonal flowers or wreaths by the headstones. Share family stories with your children about their grandparents, great-grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins -- to remember their lives and how they influenced your life.

Instead of the ordinary bedtime routine, pull out your old family albums and look at them with your children. This usually inspires some good family stories that you might forget to tell them otherwise.  

Your heart will tell you what you need, or don't need, to grieve. 

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How complicated and individual mending is,
the time required for healing
cannot be measured against any fixed calendar
Mary Jane Moffat
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