First, I am so sorry
for the death of your beloved brother-in-law. You write that your sister is pushing you away and you do not know how to help
her. Probably the most loving thing you can do is to simply let her know that you love her and you are there for her when
she is ready. Sometimes the greatest gift we can give a person new to grief is the gift of time because we all grieve differently.
She may not be able to talk about her profound loss right now. Meanwhile, read all you can about grief. The following links offer hope and support:
How to
help: http://www.griefhealing.com/helping-the-grieving.htm
Death of
a spouse: http://www.griefhealing.com/death-of-a-spouse-partner.htm
Try a well
moderated message board. Post a request for help. I know you will get many useful responses. You need to register to use it
but it is free. http://www.griefhealing.com/discussion-group.htm
Finally,
I have a friend named Marty Tousley. She is a certified bereavement counselor. She may be of assistance to you. Give her a
few days to answer, but I know she will respond to your heartfelt letter. Her E-mail: TousleyM@aol.com
You are grieving,
too. Take care of your needs first so that you are prepared to help your sister when she is ready. Your sister is fortunate
to have such a loving family.
Wishing you comfort and peace,
Christine Jette
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